This is a complex question as I am sure if I was to list every attribute that I would be looking for, that there is still a possibility that things won’t work out. However, I am going to try to put out the important things. As for the last time I was in a relationship, it was the late ’90s, so it has been a long time.
I would want someone that is caring, compassionate, honest, sincere and kind. I am not looking for someone that is materialistic, or “high maintenance”. Simply put, I don’t have enough money to meet the demands of such a person. I don’t need humor, but if she is funny, that is fine too. I could use a laugh once in a while.
I would want someone that is able to be strong enough to not “need” a man in her life. This tends to lead to clingy women that needs to be attached at the hip with the person she is with. There is always a need of alone time, and if the woman can’t understand that, there would be a lead to animosity which is never healthy.
While I am looking for someone that can stand on her own two feet, she should be able to ask for help when she needs it. Humans for the most part are social creatures, and we usually work well together. Think of it this way, no one can build a house on their own. As mentioned, I wouldn’t want a needy woman, and someone that can’t do things for herself is not a good quality. I would also want someone that can take responsibility for her actions.
I wouldn’t want someone that smokes, drinks excessively, or use hard drugs. I take medicine and that might be a temptation I would not want to deal with. In addition, such lifestyles are self-destructive. I could see occasional use of Marijuana, and I won’t judge with that. I don’t smoke, drink, nor use recreational drugs.
Obviously, there is a need for physical attraction. In which regards, I tend to prefer dark hair women, but that doesn’t mean I will exclude a blonde. I would be willing to date outside of the Caucasian race, as I am not a racist. As for eye color, again – I lean towards darker colors. And while I know I am overweight, I tend to prefer skinnier women over obese women.
And last, but just as important, she must live close by. I had done romantic long distance relationships before, and they all failed. I am sure someone would say they will be different, but that is always said, and nothing changes. If you do not live in Allegheny County Pennsylvania, then I will not consider a romantic relationship. I am fine with friends though.